Coaching · Speaking · Podcast
Get older. Get stronger. On purpose.
I coach leaders and men in the second half of life on the strength it takes to keep growing. What that work builds, I pour into Querencia, a leadership program for young people.
Coaching · Speaking · Podcast
I coach leaders and men in the second half of life on the strength it takes to keep growing. What that work builds, I pour into Querencia, a leadership program for young people.
Founder of Querencia • Co-founder of The East Harlem School • Robin Hood Heroes Award • Yass Prize Semifinalist
“Resilience helps you bounce back to where you were. Antifragility helps you become better than you’ve ever been.”
Hans Hageman
What I do
Different doors in. They all lead back to the same thing: the strength to keep going when it gets hard.
For leaders and men in midlife who look solid on the outside but feel wound tight. We work on what actually steadies you: nervous system regulation, stress, mindset, antifragility. That's how you hold up under pressure and get clear on what's next.
Book a call →Talks and workshops for teams and conferences that want more than a motivational high. Substance on toughness and on leading when everything is changing.
Speaker one-sheet (PDF) →Hands-on help for youth and education nonprofits putting AI to work without losing the plot. Less busywork, more time on the mission.
Start with the free AI Readiness Audit →Grant strategy for mission-driven organizations. Finding the right funders, and making a case that actually gets read and funded.
Hageman Grant Partners →Counsel drawn from a career as a lawyer and a nonprofit leader. Steady guidance for organizations and the people running them.
Hageman Counsel →How it works
Send a short note about where you are and what's weighing on you. No hour-long intake form.
We talk honestly about what's going on and whether I'm the right person to help. No pitch.
If it's a fit, we build the work around your life, not some fixed program you have to squeeze into.
The podcast
Conversations about getting better with age, and the second-half reinventions most people are too scared to try. Stories from people who chose to grow instead of settle.
What it's all for
Querencia is my youth leadership program, and it's the reason the rest of this exists. The coaching, the speaking, the nonprofit and grant work all earn their keep by funding one thing: young people who can lead their own lives and stand up for the people around them.
So when you hire me or pass my work along, you're not just getting a coach. You're putting weight behind the next generation.
Visit Querencia Leadership →
Guides & tools
Short, practical guides you can grab for a few dollars, a first step before we ever get on a call.
The manual for your nervous system, and how to steady yourself when everything's firing.
Breathwork to find your footing under pressure.
A system for raising a strong boy in a soft world.
Want something interactive? ForgeAI is my AI coaching app. It works with you on the same things, day to day.
Run a nonprofit? Take the free AI Readiness Audit. Score your organization across 10 domains and get a report with recommendations.
About
I've spent my life showing up for young people the system had written off. With my brother, I co-founded The East Harlem School, an early independent-school model that opened years before New York had charter legislation. Later I founded Emily N. Carey High School for the same kind of kids; it's since closed. And at Goshen Secure Center, a maximum-security prison for teenage boys, I taught vegetable gardening and ran leadership workshops, and I built the first breathwork coaching certification for incarcerated teens. Standing in a young person's corner never left me. It's the straight line to Querencia.
Before all this I worked as a lawyer and led nonprofits, and I served in the Army Reserve. Today the work runs on two tracks. I coach leaders and men in midlife on nervous system regulation, stress, mindset, and antifragility, and the youth leadership mission is what the rest of it funds.
I also co-hosted two seasons of Cultivating Resilience, Farm Aid's Cultivemos podcast on farmer well-being.
If any of that resonates, the fastest way to start is a conversation.
Start a conversationTell me a little about where you are and what you're wrestling with. I read every note personally.
Book a call Or email me