Transformation scares people. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the act of transformation means:
a : to change in composition or structure
b : to change the outward form or appearance of
c : to change in character or condition : convert
Virginia Satir once said that “the most basic human instinct is not toward survival, but towards the familiar.” People cling to their behaviors and beliefs. To ask a person to change in character or structure presents a threat to their psychic and spiritual survival.
Another Kind of Transformation
Another way of handling change is to transform your energy instead your essential self. Instead of moving your intention towards anger for a wrong done to you, transform the energy into improving the skills of a young person who might otherwise be lined up as the next victim.
Find the positive intention behind the behavior that is pissing you off.
Practice reframing your thoughts. When your current train of thought is not helpful in reaching a beneficial solution, ask yourself if there’s another way to think about it.
Transformation might be dangerous but there are ways of making it work for you.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, or the most intelligent, but the ones most responsive to change.” – Charles Darwin